Today I had that conversation again, the one where an acquaintance admits they’ve been reading books on how to write but making no headway. I like books on writing, to an extent, but they aren’t for everybody. Today, in the safe confines of a dentist office, I looked at a gracious and brilliant professional woman and lowered my voice. “Most of those books are written by  people who thrive on visual communication. Personally, I grew up in an oral culture. I write by listening.” She related. We can both reproduce a lecture in beautiful notes. We both talk to ourselves around the house. We both think out loud even in silence. I told her the secret to writing when you learn by ear: practice a…